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Thursday, 28 March 2019

This sex position is really, really good for your health

Particularly if you sit at a desk all day

We all know that having sex has lots of benefits: it's great for our skin, for our mood, for reconnecting with our partners and it can burn lots of calories.
BY 28/03/2019
There's one position in particular though that has some unexpected health benefits and might have you feeling healthier, and in better shape, in no time.
Doggy style, or from behind, is a brilliant position for many reasons but did you know that it also helps to straighten your back and work your core?
For lots of us it's a pretty comfortable position so it doesn't necessarily feel like we're doing all the hard work, like girl-on-top sometimes can, but our body is actually really working in this position.
This position is particularly good if you sit at a desk or don't have brilliant posture as we tend to naturally straighten our spine and core while catching some action in doggy style.
Does this mean we can cancel that early morning Pilates class?
https://www.redonline.co.uk/health-self/relationships/a26969008/doggy-style-sex-health-benefits/


Monday, 31 December 2018

8 things women should do after sex for good hygiene

Even if you really don’t feel like getting out of bed, practicing these good habits after sex could save you from very unsexy consequences.

DECEMBER 31, 2018

8 things women should do after sex for good hygiene

Practicing good post-coital (after sex) hygiene in the long run, will help you to ward off infections and germs that may create bigger health issues.
It might be tempting to skip that part and fall straight to sleep, but that window right after intercourse is when you want to take action in order to ensure that no undesirable bacteria can fester, especially where you can’t reach.
There are many things you can do to clean up, but here are the most important in the list of things you should do.
1. Pee, even if you don’t feel a need to
Outside molecules, including bacteria, can enter the urethra, your urinary tube, very easily during sex, putting you at risk of contracting a urinary tract infection.
The best way to flush out those harmful intruders is by peeing, even if you don’t feel a compelling urge to do so.
If you really have nothing to pee, drink a glass of water and enjoy a short, but romantic cuddle session, then use the bathroom.
If you still need more time, there are other things you can tend to first in your cleanup routine.
2. Wash yourself
A full shower will take care of most aspects of your post-coital cleanup checklist.
Avoid using overly hot or overly cold water, as your private parts will still be tender from your intimate activities.
Use mild soap. There is no need for anything extra perfumed, or even feminine washes, which can actually damage the pH in your vaginal tube.
There are a lot of products that you’ll find in pharmacies that are marketed as helping you to “keep fresh”.
These are things like wipes and sprays that are made with harsh chemicals like detergents, perfumes or lotions, which are actually unsuitable for your skin and can cause a rash or other skin problems. Also avoid scented pads and tampons.
If you don’t take a full shower, do a gentle rinse with warm water instead, or use a clean wet towel to wipe every part of your body that might be exposed to bacteria.
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The best way to clean up after sex is to take a full shower; but if you’re too lazy to, at least give your body a quick wet wipe-down before sleeping. — AFP
3. Gargle with mouthwash
Also, swish with mouthwash to eradicate germs and bacteria in your mouth.
Enjoy the foreplay, but don’t forget the cleanup after. Certain sexually transmitted infections, like chlamydia and gonorrhea (yuck!), can occur in the mouth as well.
Mouthwash in particular, is most effective in killing bacteria for this purpose.
With brushing, you might just end up transferring the germs onto your toothbrush, and obviously, you do not want that.
Gargle for about 15-20 seconds, spit, then rinse away those icky germs with water.
4. Wash your toys
While it is perfectly normal to use toys and lubrication to help with intercourse, these too must be washed.
All you need is some soap and warm water to eliminate most of the germs. If you want to be extra diligent, some silicone toys can be boiled to kill off the germs.
For anything that is powered with a battery or has some sort of mechanism, read the manufacturer’s instructions before immersing in water or subjecting it to germ-killing temperatures.
5. Douching is a no-no
This is one thing on my list that you should not do in your cleanup routine.
The practice of douching is a misguided and old-fashioned method that is now discouraged, as it has been found that douching can lead to more infections, rather than eliminate them.
The vagina has its own self-cleansing mechanism, which includes good bacteria that help to keep the pH levels healthy and balanced.
Rarely does the vagina require any additional help in keeping clean. Do your part in keeping the outside area of your private region clean, but the vagina will take care of itself.
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Gargling with mouthwash, as seen in this filepic, is more effective in getting rid of sexually-transmitted infections in the mouth than brushing your teeth.
6. Change into clean clothes and new underwear
In the course of being intimate with your partner, you can hardly be expected to be mindful of what’s happening to your clothes.
Body fluids that stain your underwear and clothes will develop bacteria, so those clothes are probably not something you would want to wear again – toss them right into the laundry basket and pick some fresh new garments to wear.
It is a good idea to toss the bedsheets into the wash as well.
7. Notice any changes or discomfort
Your body should return to normal quite soon after intercourse.
Note any changes, such as lesions, sensations or bumps, and monitor them.
If these physical changes, or any discomfort you feel, becomes worse or does not go away within reasonable time, it’s best to see a doctor for your symptoms.
Write down where you initially felt the discomfort, or what you noticed about physical symptoms, such as whether the size changed, the pain intensified, etc.
I recommend writing these down immediately, as you may not remember them later.
8. Get tested
Ideally, you should know about your partner’s sexual health before jumping into bed with them.
This is a discussion to have with your partner even if it is an uncomfortable topic to bring up.
If you still can’t be sure about the health of your partner, pay attention to symptoms like bumps, pain or sores around your genitals, or unusual discharge.
It’s always a good thing to get an STD (sexually-transmitted disease) test just to be sure, scary as it might be.
The test itself is not painful, but of course, the fear of getting positive results is more daunting.
That’s why, ideally, your sexual partner should be someone trustworthy and loyal, who will not put you at risk of contracting an unwanted STD, and vice versa.
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It would be ideal to know the condition of your partners sexual health before having sex with them. HIV, for example, can be tested for with the self-test kit seen in this filepic.
Final words
When you are pregnant, it is even more critical to take extra care and follow the steps above.
You can safely have intercourse when you are pregnant, but you do run the risk of being more prone to infections.
Take care of your basic personal hygiene post-intercourse, and you’ll be able to avoid many problems later on.
https://www.star2.com/health/2018/12/31/women-health-after-sex/

Monday, 30 October 2017

People Who Smoke Pot Have More Sex, Study Says

When Dr. Michael Eisenberg talks to his patients about sex, they sometimes ask him whether marijuana might affect their libido or their performance. “Use of the drug is increasing as it becomes legal in more states, and some men—as well as some doctors—worry that it could cause erectile dysfunction other sexual problems,” he says.

Amanda MacMillan / Health.com
Oct 27, 2017

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So Eisenberg, an assistant professor of urology at Stanford University School of Medicine, and his colleagues conducted a study to see if there really was a connection. They found reassuring news for those patients: Overall, regular marijuana use does not seem to impair sexual desire or performance. In fact, people who smoke marijuana tend to have more sex than those who don’t.

The new study, published today in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, is based on surveys of more than 50,000 Americans ages 25 to 45, collected between 2002 and 2015. As part of a larger health questionnaire, people reported how often they’d smoked marijuana during the past 12 months and how often they’d had intercourse with someone of the opposite sex during the past four weeks.

Eisenberg and his colleagues crunched the numbers, and found that the more frequently people smoked marijuana, the more sex they had. For both men and women, those who used marijuana on a daily basis had about 20% more sex than those who said they never used the drug.

Women who abstained had sex an average of 6 times over the past four weeks, compared to 7.1 times for daily users. For men, abstainers averaged 5.6 times and daily users averaged 6.9.

The authors point out that the study was not able to find a cause-and-effect relationship between pot and sex. “We don’t want people to start smoking marijuana because they think they’re going to have more sex,” says Eisenberg. “It’s certainly possible that people who use marijuana happen to have similar traits, like lower inhibitions, as those who also have more sex.”

The link was seen across all subgroups in the study—including people of both genders; different races, ages, and religions; those who were married or single; and with kids or without. The link also remained after the researchers adjusted for use of other drugs, such as cocaine and alcohol. This suggests that there may be something about the drug itself that boosts sexual function, says Eisenberg—or at the very least, doesn’t hamper it.

Overall, about 25% of men and 15% of women in the survey reported having used marijuana. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, more than 20 million Americans are current marijuana users, and the drug is legalized for medical or recreational use in 29 states.

If marijuana does, in fact, increase people’s desire for sex, it may have to do with the fact that cannabinoid receptors in the brain—which are activated by the drug—are known to be active during sexual activity, the authors write in their paper.

But Eisenberg says that marijuana’s effects on sexual function likely vary from person to person. In their paper, the authors cite a 2003 review of studies in which 51% of marijuana users reported increased sexual arousal while 26% reported a decrease. (In those same studies, however, 74% of people said they believed marijuana increased sexual pleasure.)

They also cite research suggesting that small amounts of marijuana can enhance sexual function, while larger quantities can inhibit it. And they point out that their new study only asked how often people had sex—not the quality of it. More research is needed, they say, to determine marijuana’s effects on things like erectile function, orgasm frequency, vaginal lubrication and fertility.

As a physician, Eisenberg says there are other reasons doctors may discourage marijuana smoking—like its harmful effects on the lungs. But he says it’s helpful to know that, in general, it’s probably not also a direct cause of sexual problems.

This article originally appeared on Health.com

Wednesday, 7 October 2015

10 things you may not know about the vagina

The Internet has widely expanded our general knowledge and yet, we’re still quite reluctant to discuss the female nether region, let alone say the word: vagina.

OCTOBER 5, 2015
BY DATUK DR NOR ASHIKIN MOKHTAR

10 things you may not know about the vagina
Just because it is not often talked about doesn't make the vagina any less interesting. Photo: Filepic


The vagina (derived from the Latin word vagina, which literally means “sheath”) is a natural and 
important part of the female anatomy; so, give it the attention it deserves.

The more you know about the vagina, the more you will appreciate how fascinating and amazing that region under your belly button really is.
Let’s open up the conversation on our lady parts with some awe-inspiring facts about your hoo-hahs.
1 Daily discharge is normal for premenopausal women.
The vagina produces an average of one teaspoon of discharge every day, and you will have noticed that it is usually white or transparent, and odourless.
Before the ovulation phase of your menstrual cycle, the amount increases and it becomes more watery and elastic.
If the wetness bothers you, try using a panty liner or sanitary pad.
But, if anything seems unusual – bad odour, discomfort, etc – you should consult your doctor.
2 Menstrual blood is not just dirt from your body; it has stem cells.
Although it signals the time of the month that most women dread, scientists have been trying to conduct experiments using menstrual blood, which is rich in self-regenerating stem cells.
Currently, this easily-available blood is being tested in research to help patients with heart failure.
Vaginal fluids and shark liver oil both contain squalene, which can be found in beauty products like skin creams. Photo: AFP
Vaginal fluids and shark liver oil both contain squalene, which can be found in beauty products like skin creams. Photo: AFP
3 Sharks and vaginas are not so different.
Vaginal fluids and oil from shark liver contain a similar organic compound known as squalene, which is sometimes used in beauty products like skin creams.
Locals on the Japanese island of Izu have used squalene from sharks as a cure-all serum.
4 You do not need to douche and cleanse the vagina.
The vagina is swarming with bacteria, but you want to keep it that way – lactobacilli, the same bacteria used in yoghurt, can prevent nasty microorganisms from giving you an infection.
All you need to do is take care of the outer part of your lady bits by washing with scent-free soap, but the vagina regulates and cleans itself through discharge – secretions that expel excess water, cells and bacteria.
5 Sweating is normal.
The two main types of sweat glands are eccrine glands, which produce more moisture, and apocrine glands, which are more responsible for smell due to their oily secretions.
Your crotch contains a higher density of both, so it is quite normal to perspire a lot down there.
The sweat and oil help protect against friction and overheating, but tight and/or synthetic underwear tends to trap moisture, creating an ideal environment for bacterial infection.
It is best to wear cotton, or even go commando.
6 You cannot lose anything in your vagina.
Your uterus opening is too small for anything to go through – unless you’re giving birth, of course.
Occasionally, a tampon that goes a little too far in will require a visit to the gynaecologist to have it removed, but the cervix acts as a barrier, preventing access to the uterus.
7 Tighter isn’t always better.
Vaginismus is a condition that causes involuntary contractions in the vaginal muscles. This closes the vagina, preventing you from having sex, using a tampon, and even having a gynaecological exam.
Often, the condition gets progressively worse as women who have it get increasingly stressed and worsen the condition, but fail to check with their gynaecologist.
Fortunately, it can be treated via counselling, combined with physical therapy.
8 Vagina power!
In 2009, Tatyana Kozhevnikova, a 42-year-old Russian mother, reportedly set a record by lifting over 15kg of weight… with her vagina. She attached the weight to a wooden egg, which she then inserted into her vagina.
Kozhevnikova told reporters she “just tightened the vaginal muscles to hold the egg inside”. This gives Kegel exercises a whole new meaning.
Another occurrence that indicates the strength of vaginas is known as penis captivus.
Although rare, it happens during intercourse when the muscles in the vagina clamp down with intensity on the penis, making it impossible for the penis to withdraw from the vagina.
9 You won’t stretch out by accommodating large sizes.
Vaginal walls are pleated and compressed, unfolding like an umbrella when it needs to accommodate a tampon or penis.
Regardless of the length or size of the penis, you can count on your vagina returning to its usual tightness after intercourse.
Women who have experienced childbirth, however, tend to feel loosened up in there. Doing Kegel exercises may help tighten you up.
10 Designer vaginas.
Vaginal surgery, or labiaplasty, can increase pleasure and improve appearance, according to some doctors. However, these procedures are rarely necessary and can cause pain or nerve damage. They are also almost never covered by insurance.
Consider vaginal rejuvenation instead. This is a non-reconstructive surgery that tightens the structure of the vagina using Erbium Yag laser treatment.
Popular amongst women after childbirth, it is virtually painless and requires no downtime for recovery.
11 Is something causing you pain in your lady parts?
These conditions can cause serious discomfort:
■ Atrophic vaginitis
Aging and menopause cause a reduction in oestrogen and can lead to atrophic vaginitis.
Symptoms include thinning and dryness of the vagina, inflammation and urinary incontinence.
Sex might be painful, and vaginal and urinary tract infections can occur more frequently, due to the loss of natural secretions and acidity of the vagina, which protects against harmful bacterial or fungal infections.
■ Vulvodynia
This condition is characterised by a stinging around your vulva – the skin surrounding the opening of your vagina.
The pain can be so intense that direct contact is hard to bear.
There is no known cause for vulvodynia, and it’s often diagnosed after gynaecologists rule out other conditions, such as a bad yeast infection.
Treatment with bioidentical hormone therapy may help in both atrophic vaginitis and vulvodynia.
Like any other body part, our vagina is just another part of us, so it seems logical and sensible that we should be well-acquainted with it and take good care of it.
As a reminder, always consult your doctor for medical advice before starting any treatment programmes.
http://www.star2.com/health/wellness/2015/10/05/10-things-you-may-not-know-about-the-vagina/

This post is on Healthwise

Thursday, 1 October 2015

The mystery of the female orgasm

From the existence of the G-spot to the origin of multiple orgasms, female sexuality once mystified scientists. But as Linda Geddes discovers, radical experiments are finally revealing some answers.

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On my washing machine, there is a lock. To activate it, you must hold down the start button for a particular length of time at just the right intensity; too soft and nothing happens, too hard and the machine beeps angrily at you. Once you’ve mastered the technique, it’s easy; the lights switch on, things start moving and the cycle ultimately climaxes in a shuddering whirling crescendo of noise. Finally, an entangled heap of damp but refreshed clothes tumbles out at the other end. But for the uninitiated, it’s a perplexing mystery.
Consider now the female orgasm. JD Salinger once wrote that “a woman’s body is like a violin; it takes a terrific musician to play it right”. Pressed or caressed the right way, a woman can be transported to such ecstasy, that for a few seconds, the rest of the world ceases to exist.  But get it wrong and pain, frustration, or dull nothingness can ensue. It’s a stark contrast to a man’s experience; so long as they can get an erection, a few minutes of vigorous stimulation generally results in ejaculation.
Why are orgasms so intensely pleasurable? How come women can experience multiple orgasms? And does the fabled G-spot even exist? These are some of the most enduring mysteries of medicine. “We are able to go to the moon, but we do not understand enough about our own bodies,” says Emmanuele Jannini at the University of Rome Tor Vergata – one of those who has spent his career trying to unravel it. Recent years have seen a flurry of studies by these real-life Masters of Sex, and they are finally getting some answers.
Brains on fire
Perhaps the scientists’ greatest skill is in persuading women to sweep aside their inhibitions, and masturbate – or even copulate – under the full glare of scientific research, including the uncomfortable environment of the fMRI scanner. One of the leaders of this research has been Barry Komisaruk at Rutgers University in New Jersey, who wanted to probe whether brain differences can explain why women and men experience sex so differently.
What we see is an overall activation of the brain – it’s all systems go
It turns out that despite their varied experiences, both men and women show roughly the same neural activity during orgasm. “The similarities between men and women at orgasm are far greater than the differences,” says Komisaruk. “What we see is an overall activation of the brain; basically it’s like all systems go.”
This may explain why orgasms are so all-consuming – if the whole forest is blazing, it’s difficult to discriminate between the different campfires that were there at the start. “At orgasm, if everything gets activated simultaneously, this can obliterate the fine discrimination between activities,” Komisaruk adds. It is maybe why you can’t think about anything else.
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Women's brains still receive signals from the genitals after orgasm, allowing them to climax multiple times (Credit: Getty Images)
There are hotspots in this furnace, however. One is the nucleus accumbens, a brain region that deals in pleasure and reward through the release of a neurotransmitter called dopamine. Given the choice, rats will choose electrical stimulation of this brain region over food - to the extent that they would allow themselves to starve to death. Besides sex, it’s also activated by cocaine, amphetamine, caffeine, nicotine and chocolate. No wonder orgasms make you want to keep on going back for more.
After orgasm, however, some important differences do emerge, which might begin to explain why men and women react so differently after climax. Komisaruk, with Kachina Allen, has found preliminary evidence that specific regions of the male brain become unresponsive to further sensory stimulation of the genitals in the immediate aftermath of orgasm, whereas women’s brains continue to be activated: this may be why some women experience multiple orgasms, and men do not.
Anatomy of pleasure
If these brain scans have generated some controversy, it has been nothing compared to the attempts to pin down the anatomy of the orgasm. The penis has just one route for carrying sensations to the brain, the female genital tract has three or four. At the seat of female sexuality is the clitoris: familiar to most as a small, pebble-shaped nubbin, plonked in an awkward position, a centimetre or so in front of the vaginal opening. Precisely who discovered the importance of this structure is up for debate. Ice-age clay models, known as “Venus figurines”, depict a faceless woman with large breasts, a rounded belly, a prominent vagina and labia – and on one model, a clitoris.
It wasn’t until the 16th Century that the clitoris began to be described as a distinct physical structure, common to all women, with the function of inducing pleasure. In his book, De re anatomica, published in 1559, Realdo Columbo described the clitoris as “the seat of a woman’s delight”. Yet in subsequent centuries, female pleasure took a back seat, and the clitoris was largely forgotten – at least by anatomists and physicians. It re-emerged in the 20th Century, but was still regarded as inferior by many.  Though Sigmund Freud at least acknowledged that women can experience orgasm, he believed that clitoral responsivity is superseded by vaginal orgasm in mature women. The inability to experience vaginal orgasms is associated with psychosexual immaturity, he wrote.
If that were true, then there would be an awful lot of women out there who just aren’t realising their sexual potential.  Between thirty and forty percent of women claim never to have experienced an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone – though many more can orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
The suggestion that the vaginal orgasm is somehow superior has irked many feminists. It sounds as if women who don’t experience vaginal orgasms just aren’t trying hard enough. So should vaginal orgasms be a rite of passage for all women, or just a privileged few? Is it even possible to have an orgasm in the absence of a clitoris?
As soon as I touched the cervix, the rats would become rigidly immobile – Barry Komisaruk
Barry Komisaruk took the first steps to answering these questions by chance, while he was studying mating behaviours in rats. One day, while inserting a rod into a female rat’s vagina, he triggered a bizarre response: “As soon as I touched the cervix, the rats would become rigidly immobile,” he says. Not only that, but during this kind of stimulation, the rats became apparently insensitive to pain. Soon afterwards, he switched his rats for women, and noticed the same thing: vaginal stimulation blocked the transmission of pain. But how?
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The vagina and clitoris have many direct routes to the brain (Credit: Science Photo Library)
To find out, Komisaruk conducted a study with Beverly Whipple that looked at women with varying degrees of spinal cord injury. They found that even when their injuries blocked the known nerve pathways in the spinal cord from the genitals to the brain, these women could still feel when their vagina and cervix were being touched. Some even experienced orgasm from it, despite the pudendal nerve – which carries sensations from the clitoris to the brain – being cut. “Women with spinal cord injury who could not feel their clitoris, nevertheless had orgasms from vaginal stimulation,” says Komisaruk. “That’s probably the best evidence that vaginal orgasms exist.”
The reason is that from the vagus nerves, which are situated outside the spinal cord, carry sensations from the vagina to the brain. “Women describe clitoral orgasms as more localised and external, and vaginal orgasms as being internal and involving the whole-body; that’s probably because the nerves that carry sensations from the clitoris are different from the nerves from the vagina,” Komisaruk adds.  And as for the puzzling fact that vaginal orgasms can block pain, the nerves connected to the spinal cord may inhibit the release of the neurotransmitter involved in pain perception. Once signals reach the brain, they could also trigger the release of neurotransmitters like endorphins that also relieve pain.
So if different nerves can carry sensations from different regions of the female genitalia – and both can trigger orgasm – are some regions of the vagina more sensitive than others? Where should couples go hunting for the elusive vaginal orgasm?
G marks the spot
The famed “G-spot” was, for a long time, the prime target. The term was first coined in the early 80s, for the German obstetrician and gynaecologist, Ernst Gräfenberg. In 1950, he described an erogenous zone on the anterior, or front wall of the vagina, which correlated with the position of the urethra on the other side of that wall. Subsequent studies revealed a complex of blood vessels, nerve endings and remnants of the female prostate gland in the same area; and suggested that in a minority of women – particularly those with strong pelvic floor muscles – stimulation of this area could trigger powerful orgasms and the release of a small amount of fluid from the urethra that was not urine.
Word soon began to leak out about this magic button on the front wall of the vagina. Couples invested time, and - often fruitless - effort into finding it. Some feminists, meanwhile, claimed that the publicity surrounding the G-spot was an attempt by men to recoup the importance of vaginal penetration, after the spotlight had shifted to the clitoris during the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s.
Evidence to support or refute the existence of the G-spot is patchy, and often overhyped. One study ‘disproving’ the existence of a G-spot was based on an MRI scan of just one woman. The debate is further obscured by a dispute about the correct terminology for the various inner regions of women’s private parts, and also where one structure starts and another ends.
However, there do seem to be physical differences between women who claim to experience vaginal orgasm and those who don’t. In 2008, Jannini published a study involving nine such responders, and 11 who said they’d never climaxed during penetrative sex alone. Ultrasound scans revealed a thicker area of tissue in the space between the vagina and the urethra in those that could.
At the time, Jannini concluded that this might well be evidence for the fabled G-spot. But further studies have prompted a rethink. “The word spot suggests a button; something that you can push to obtain an orgasm or pleasure,” he says. “It implies a concrete structure that’s either there or it’s not. No-one has been able to clearly describe such a structure as a spot.”
The clitoris could also be described as a two-headed penis; both are derived from the same embryonic tissue
So if it’s not a button, what else could it be? For a growing number of researchers the answer is simple: the clitoris. Although to most people, the clitoris is just a pea-shaped bobble under the surface of the skin, recent MRI studies suggest that the clitoris is far from diminutive. They reveal a large, bulbous structure around 9cm in length, which somewhat resembles a wishbone. It snakes its way around the outside of the vagina and up inside the pelvis alongside the urethra.
At the head of that wishbone is the glans – the external part that most people feel as the clitoris, and the most sensitive part. But the legs straddle the vaginal opening and extend into the labia.
It could also be described as a two-headed penis. Both the clitoris and the penis are derived from the same embryonic tissue; a swelling called the tubercle which emerges during the early stages of embryogenesis and then branches into either the clitoris and vulval tissue in girls, or the penis and scrotum in boys. But there are important differences: for one thing, the penis doesn’t grow in response to hormones like testosterone once puberty ceases, whereas the clitoris does. “It is not simply a little penis,” Jannini says. The vagina also responds to hormones, including oestrogen, which helps explain why women’s sexual response varies throughout their lives.
This complexity may explain why it has been so difficult to prove – or disprove – the existence of the G-spot; it’s not easy to stimulate the frontal wall of the vagina in isolation. You’re also likely rubbing up against the internal portions of the clitoris and the urethra as well.
Indeed, further research by Jannini and Odile Buisson at the Centre d’échographie in Saint Germain en Laye, France, has demonstrated this. They persuaded three women to either stimulate the front wall of their vaginas using a lubricated tampon, or use their fingers to stimulate the external parts of their clitoris - while using ultrasound to image what was happening beneath the skin. Vaginal penetration caused the internal parts of the clitoris and the tissue around the urethra to move and become engorged, whereas during manual masturbation, only the external parts of the clitoris were stimulated.
It gets even more complicated; in yet other women, vaginal penetration might simultaneously be stimulating both the external and the internal parts of the clitoris. 
The woman had been born without a bladder, and had undergone extensive reconstructive surgery. The silver lining? She has incredible orgasms
In 2009, a 42-year-old woman presented at the clinic of Rachel Pauls, a urogynecologist based in Cincinnati, Ohio. The woman had been born without a bladder, and had undergone extensive reconstructive surgery to correct some of these problems. There is a silver lining to this cloud, however; “she has incredible orgasms,” Pauls says. Indeed, she told Pauls that she averages two orgasms every time she has sex – one through manual stimulation of her clitoris; the other through vaginal penetration alone. Pauls was particularly fascinated by her story, because the women’s urethra – and therefore the associated bundle of nerves and structures usually labelled the G-spot – wasn’t in the usual place. Additionally, the woman’s clitoris was positioned on the very edge of her vaginal opening. “It seemed likely that this was part of why she had such good orgasms,” Pauls says. The penis would brush against it with every thrust.
Does size matter?
This sparked an idea. Pauls wondered if the size, and location of the clitoris in healthy women might influence the ease with which they orgasm during penetrative sex. So she and her colleagues recruited ten women who claimed rarely or never to achieve orgasm during sexual encounters, and twenty women who said they climax almost every time, and used an MRI scanner to take a detailed look at their clitorises. They found that the smaller the size of the pea-shaped glans, and the further the clitoris was from the vagina, the harder they found it to achieve orgasm.
Taken together, these studies imply that there are multiple routes by which women can experience an orgasm, be it through vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or both at once. Further studies by Komisaruk have revealed that projections from different regions of the female genitals – and indeed the nipples – all converge on the same general region of the brain, albeit in slightly different areas. “There’s a good neuro-anatomical basis for different types of orgasms and different types of sensations,” Komisaruk says. “This could account for why combining clitoral, vaginal and cervical stimulation seems to produce these more intense, complex and pleasurable orgasms that women describe.”
As for women who find it difficult to climax during penetrative sex – or indeed any sex – the message is simple: experiment.
As for women who find it difficult to climax during penetrative sex – or indeed any sex – Paul’s message is simple: experiment. “Women come to see me as patients and they’ll say ‘I can’t have vaginal orgasms, so there must be something wrong with me’. There’s nothing wrong with them. Everyone is a little different, so some women will have a lot of clitoral stimulation during sex, while for others it’s a little harder - so their partner may have to use their hands or a toy. But women should know that if they don’t have orgasms with straight out vaginal penetration, then that that’s normal.”
Jannini has an additional message for women: “Not only enjoy sex, but also enjoy knowing yourself and understanding who you are today, because probably tomorrow you will be different.” And don’t underestimate the infinite variety that’s on offer. “Do not think of the female body as a machine that can always deliver the same,” he says.



http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150625-the-mystery-of-the-female-orgasm

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