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Friday, 4 August 2017

What to do if you’re suddenly out of a job ...

... like Reince Priebus, Sean Spicer or Anthony Scaramucci

Parting can be sweet sorrow — but as Reince Priebus, Sean Spicer and Anthony Scaramucci learned recently, it’s also a time to tread carefully.

Published: Aug 4, 2017 9:27 a.m. ET
By

JACOB PASSY


Former White House communications director Anthony Scaramucci.

White House communications director Anthony Scaramucci has been removed from his post just 10 days after being brought on. Last week, Scaramucci gave an expletive-laced interview to the New Yorker magazine. President Trump tweeted Friday that he had named Gen. John F. Kelly, who was previously tapped as Secretary of Homeland Security, as his new chief of staff. In a separate tweet, Trump thanked Priebus, who was chairman of the Republican National Committee before becoming chief of staff, “for his service and dedication to his country.”
Priebus joins a growing list of people who have quit posts at the White House or been fired by Trump. Sean Spicer, who was the White House press secretary, gave his notice last week after disagreeing with President Donald Trump’s choice to appoint New York financier Anthony Scaramucci as communications director. In May, Trump fired former Federal Bureau of Investigation director James Comey. And Michael Flynn was forced to resign in February as Trump’s national security adviser amid controversy over communication he had with Russia’s U.S. ambassador, Sergey Kislyak. In all these cases, the departures were relatively abrupt.
But they’re not alone. In 2016, nearly 527,000 Americans had their jobs cut, including workers who took an early retirement or other opportunities to leave their company, according to data from executive outplacement and career transitioning firm Challenger, Gray & Christmas. Whether you’re the White House chief of staff, the White House Press Secretary, or an average Joe, the next-steps are generally the same. Here are some ways to ease the blow of finding yourself unexpectedly unemployed and to prepare for finding a new job:
First of all, don’t panic
It’s natural to feel slighted after being fired or quitting a job, but now is the time to be on one’s best behavior. “The shock factor is big,” said Lynn Berger, a career coach and consultant. “And you tend not to make the best decisions when you’re in a state of shock and feel very threatened.”
The impression left after leaving a job under a cloud can follow someone throughout their career. We live in a small world: Word travels fast, and people change jobs. You never know who you’re going to end up working for in the future, so it’s important to avoid letting any frustration or anger show to prevent burning any bridges that could be critical in finding a new job down the road. “If you’re in a position to not do anything, don’t do anything,” Berger suggested.
Along similar lines, don’t react impulsively when it comes to the next steps. Getting fired or quitting a job today does not necessarily mean needing to find a new job tomorrow. Berger suggest taking some time to get over the shock before tackling the job application process to avoid a knee-jerk impulse that could land someone in an even worse working situation.
Also, it’s important to reconnect with yourself — even if you loathed your job, it can be hard to come to terms with what happened and let it go. “If you’ve been with the company a long time, your job title and company are a part of who you are,” said Vicki Salemi, a career expert for jobs site Monster.com. Take the time you need to pursue an activity that makes you feel good about yourself again, she said, and rebuild your confidence.
While talking with supportive friends and colleagues during this time is important, it’s also helpful to talk to those not as close to you, such as mentors, colleagues and career professionals, Salemi said. They may provide you with more coping mechanisms, or give you the structure and advice you need to get back to work.
Re-evaluate your financial situation
For many people, not having a job means worrying about your bank account. Hopefully, there’s an emergency fund in place — common thinking is to save up enough money for between three and six months’ worth of expenses. And cutting out discretionary spending is critical, especially if you can’t receive unemployment benefits.
Someone who is recently unemployed can also take some other steps to ensure their financial stability. For instance, maintaining a good credit score will make it easier to secure low-interest loans, such as a 0% interest credit card, which can help stretch a meager budget a bit further. And don’t forget about applying for unemployment benefits.
Come up with a response to people’s questions
Whether it’s a friend or a prospective employer, the recently-jobless will inevitably face questions about why they were fired or, in Spicer’s case, what convinced them to quit. How you answer those inquiries is important, particularly while still hunting for a new job. “Come up with a good concise explanation that doesn’t say anything bad about you or your previous employer,” said John Challenger, chief executive of Challenger, Gray & Christmas. “The key is you don’t want to dwell on what happened. You’re looking forward.”
Obviously practice makes perfect in a situation like this — but who you practice with is an important consideration. As Challenger put it, someone who’s quit a job under trying circumstances shouldn’t use just any friends or colleagues “as a confessional to spread your feelings of betrayal into the world.” His advice: Pick a few close, trusted friends to talk about it with and test possible responses on. “To the rest of the world, you don’t owe them a long explanation,” he said.
When talking to prospective employers, having a succinct statement ready to go when they ask why you are looking to start a new job will keep you on the right path. Answers like, “The culture of the company didn’t align with mine” or “The company and role were changing” are better than “I didn’t meet my sales metrics” and “I had a problem with my boss,” Salemi said. You don’t want to lie though — some background checks may show if you’ve been terminated, she said.
This is also a good time to do a postmortem on why the firing happened in the first place. Think about what mistakes may have been made on the job or what could have been done differently. Not only will this help in crafting a response to people’s questions, but it will also prevent similar this situation from happening again.
How to approach looking for a new job
For folks who are recently unemployed, finding a new job in many ways is a different process. It’s important to start the job search quickly — and not just because of the lack of income. The job market favors those who were most recently employed and will view with suspicion people who have been out of work for a while, Challenger said. ‘You do have to get at your search with urgency,” he said.
Keep in mind the general rules of thumb when it comes to applying for a job today. Maintain a positive social media presence. Brush up that resume — and re-evaluate what experience is listed on it. And instead of spending all day scanning job listings, network and check in with professional contacts who may have better leads on jobs.
In situations like these, Challenger said that job seekers should create as many opportunities for themselves as possible. Putting too much stock into one job opportunity can be a painful mistake if it falls through. At the same time, people who have either been fired or decided to suddenly quit don’t need to settle for the first job they’re offered. With the number of people collecting unemployment dropping to a 17-year low recently, it’s a seller’s market when it comes to finding a new job. Being patient could lead to better job prospects and less disappointment.
And, most important: stay positive. Salemi has seen candidates with similar resumes both looking for jobs at the same time -- the ones who remained positive found work quicker than the ones who didn’t, mostly because the latter were stuck in a rut mentally.
—Alessandra Malito contributed to this story.
http://www.marketwatch.com/story/what-to-do-when-like-james-comey-you-suddenly-get-fired-2017-05-10?siteid=yhoof2&yptr=yahoo


Monday, 10 August 2015

Programming your mind for success


Programming your mind for success | Carrie Green | TEDxManchester


This post is on Healthwise


Published on 20 Jun 2014

Carrie Green started her first online business at the age of 20, whilst studying Law at the University of Birmingham. Within a few years she took the business global, selling throughout the UK, USA, Canada, Australia and Europe and receiving over 100,000 hits on the website every month. In 2011 Carrie launched the Female Entrepreneur Association as a way to help inspire and connect female entrepreneurs from around the world. The network has grown to over 140,000 women and they now produce a digital magazine, This Girl Means Business, weekly videos, free online classes and more.

In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)


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Saturday, 8 August 2015

Creating the most influential you


Creating the most influential you | Vinh Giang | TEDxMacquarieUniversity

Monday, 20 July 2015

7 Things Emotionally Successful People Do Differently

Your emotional health is at the crux of your quality of life. Without happiness, hopefulness and well-being, it’s difficult to reach your full potential and embrace each day as it comes.

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  • Your level of emotional success is based on your own choices and attitudes
  • Emotionally successful people take control of their lives, are flexible, and learn from their mistakes
  • Creating specific goals, accepting yourself, keeping your stress in check, and letting go of the “little things” are also important for emotional health

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By Dr. Mercola
Your emotional health is at the crux of your quality of life. Without happiness, hopefulness and well-being, it’s difficult to reach your full potential and embrace each day as it comes.
Your emotional health is also intricately tied to your physical health, such that an emotionally imbalanced person will be at a greater risk of chronic diseases and acute illnesses like colds and flu.
One study found, for instance, that happiness, optimism, life satisfaction, and other positive psychological attributes are associated with a lower risk of heart disease.1
It's even been scientifically shown that happiness can alter your genes. A team of researchers at UCLA showed that people with a deep sense of happiness and well-being had lower levels of inflammatory gene expression and stronger antiviral and antibody responses.2
There is some research to suggest that some people are born naturally happier than others. In one study of nearly 1,000 pairs of adult twins, researchers at the University of Edinburgh suggested that genes account for about 50 percent of the variation in people's levels of happiness.
The underlying determinant was genetically caused personality traits, such as being sociable, active, stable, hardworking, or conscientious.3 But this does not at all suggest that you're born with a certain emotional “personality” and powerless to change it.
Anyone can improve their level of “emotional success,” and your environment and life circumstances also play a role, as there are many other indicators of emotional well-being outside of your genes (or your age).

7 Habits of Emotionally Successful People

In many ways, your level of emotional success is based on your own choices and attitudes. While some people are able to roll with the punches, others get easily sidelined by challenges along the way.
In order to “toughen up” emotionally, such that you’re able to live your life feeling naturally strong and confident in your choices (and in yourself), try some of these 7 habits of emotionally successful people.4
1. Take Control
Rather than sitting back and letting life happen to you, take control and decide to make things happen for you. Become the ruler of your own destiny, so to speak, and take calculated steps to achieve your goals and desires.
2. Be Flexible
Life is likely to throw you a few curveballs. When that happens, will they throw you off course or will you be able to pivot when you need to? Being flexible means you have an open mind and will adjust to whatever life throws your way.
3. Learn from Your Mistakes
Mistakes often offer valuable lessons that you can use to improve yourself in the future. Treat them as tools for improvement rather than letting them define you.
4. Create Specific Goals
Students who set goals earn twice as much money as those who do not. Further, those who set clear, written goals were earning 10 times as much.5 Setting and writing out your goals helps you to have a clear direction and plan for achieving your dreams.
5. Accept Yourself
Strength comes from within, so learning to accept yourself is crucial to being happy. Resist the urge to look for acceptance from others. Once you’re comfortable and strong in your own sense of self, relationships and success come naturally.
6. Keep Your Stress in Check
If you’re under stress, it’s harder to control your emotions. Figure out what works for you to keep your stress levels under control (exercise, talking with a friend, alone time, etc.), and be sure to engage in it regularly.
7. Let the Little Things Slide
Stressing and fretting over circumstances you can’t control or which don’t really matter in the big picture will drain your mental reserves and wear you down. Resist the urge to become a control freak and instead let go of the little inconveniences, upsets, and disappointments that come along the way.

Choosing to Be Happy

What you’ll notice about the habits above is that these are primarily choices you can make for yourself. It's thought that genetics account for about 50 percent of your "innate" happiness while life circumstances make up another 10. The rest is under your control, and the first step to harnessing it is to choose it and believe you can be happy.
Research shows, for instance, that when people were told to attempt to feel happier when listing to music, they were (as opposed to those who were told to simply relax).6 It was the intention to become happier that made a difference.
It might help to consider your emotions as a form of energy. According to Dr. Bradley Nelson, when you feel an emotion, what you’re really sensing is the vibration of a particular energy. Each emotion has its own vibratory signature, and when intense emotions are felt, they can become trapped in your body, much like a ball of energy.
These “balls of energy” can become lodged just about anywhere in your body, where they can then cause disruptions in your body’s energy system, which underlies your physical system much like an invisible matrix.
Your body cannot tell the difference between an actual experience that triggers an emotional response and an emotion fabricated through thought process alone—such as when worrying about something negative that might occur but has not actually happened, or conversely, thinking about something positive and pleasant.
The latter, of course, will help your body to express many of the health benefits associated with happiness, while ruminating or focusing on negativity can literally manifest disease.

The Health Benefits of Happiness

Happiness not only feels good… it’s physically good for your body, too. For instance, past research has found that positive emotions –including being happy, lively and calm -- appear to play a role in immune function. One study found that when happy people are exposed to cold and flu viruses, they’re less likely to get sick and, if they do, exhibit fewer symptoms.7
The association held true regardless of the participants’ levels of self-esteem, purpose, extraversion, age, education, body mass or pre-study immunity to the virus, leading the lead researcher to say:8
“We need to take more seriously the possibility that positive emotional style is a major player in disease risk.”
Further, in a study of nearly 200 heart failure patients, those with higher levels of gratitude had better mood, better sleep, less fatigue, and less inflammation, which can worsen heart failure, than those with lower levels.9
What this means is that investing in your own happiness should not be viewed as a self-indulgent luxury. It represents an important piece of the puzzle when it comes to piecing together your overall health.
Your mind can only take so much stress before it breaks down, yet many neglect to tend to their emotional health with the same devotion they give to their physical well-being. This is a surefire recipe for emotional breakdown.

What Your Emotions Look Like…


Happiness is associated with a smile, sadness with a frown, but researchers have recently been able to use technology to visualize how your emotions manifest inside your body. Researchers in Finland asked 700 volunteers from Finland, Sweden, and Taiwan to think about one of 14 predetermined emotions, and then paint the areas of a blank silhouette that felt stimulated by that particular emotion.
Using a second blank silhouette, they were asked to paint in the areas that felt “deactivated” during that emotion.10 (If you want to try this experiment yourself, you can do so here.) The experiment showed that emotions tend to be felt in ways that are generally consistent from one person to the next, irrespective of age, sex or nationality. As reported by The Atlantic:11
“The mapping exercise produced what you might expect: an angry hot-head... a depressed figurine that was literally blue (meaning they felt little sensation in their limbs). Almost all of the emotions generated changes in the head area, suggesting smiling, frowning, or skin temperature changes, while feelings like joy and anger saw upticks in the limbs—perhaps because you’re ready to hug, or punch, your interlocutor.
Meanwhile, ‘sensations in the digestive system and around the throat region were mainly found in disgust,’ the authors wrote. It's worth noting that the bodily sensations weren't blood flow, heat, or anything else that could be measured objectively—they were based solely on physical twinges subjects said they experienced… [T]he results likely reveal subjective perceptions about the impact of our mental states on the body, a combination of muscle and visceral reactions and nervous system responses that we can’t easily differentiate.”

9 More Strategies to Stay Emotionally Healthy

It’s clear that your emotional state is intricately tied to your physical and mental states. So what can you do to stay emotionally healthy? Like achieving physical fitness or a healthy weight, this is an ongoing process… something that must be tended to each and every day. The good news is that small steps add up and can make a major different for your emotional health. Tips for emotional nurturing include:
1. Be an Optimist
Looking on the bright side increases your ability to experience happiness in your day-to-day life while helping you cope more effectively with stress.
2. Have Hope
Having hope allows you to see the light at the end of the tunnel, helping you push through even dark, challenging times. Accomplishing goals, even small ones, can help you to build your level of hope.
3. Embrace Your Quirks
Self-deprecating remarks and thoughts will shroud your mind with negativity and foster increased levels of stress. Seek out and embrace the positive traits of yourself and your life, and avoid measuring your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you.
4. Stay Connected
Having loving and supportive relationships helps you feel connected and accepted, and promote a more positive mood. Intimate relationships help meet your emotional needs, so make it a point to reach out to others to develop and nurture these relationships in your life.
5. Express Gratitude
People who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health.
6. Find Your Purpose and Meaning
When you have a purpose or goal that you’re striving for, your life will take on a new meaning that supports your mental well-being. If you’re not sure what your purpose is, explore your natural talents and interests to help find it, and also consider your role in intimate relationships and ability to grow spiritually.
7. Master Your Environment
When you have mastery over your environment, you’ve learned how to best modify your unique circumstances for the most emotional balance, which leads to feelings of pride and success. Mastery entails using skills such as time management and prioritization along with believing in your ability to handle whatever life throws your way.
8. Exercise Regularly
Exercise boosts levels of health-promoting neurochemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, which may help buffer some of the effects of stress and also relieve some symptoms of depression. Rather than viewing exercise as a medical tool to lose weight, prevent disease, and live longer – all benefits that occur in the future – try viewing exercise as a daily tool to immediately enhance your frame of mind, reduce stress and feel happier.
9. Practice Mindfulness
Practicing “mindfulness” means you’re actively paying attention to the moment you’re in right now. Rather than letting your mind wander, when you’re mindful you’re living in the moment and letting distracting or negative thoughts pass through your mind without getting caught up in their emotional implications. Mindfulness can help you reduce stress for increased well-being as well as achieve undistracted focus.

Harnessing EFT for Better Emotional Health

If your emotions are a form of energy that can even become “trapped” in your body if they become too intense, using a form of energy psychology to heal your emotional scarring makes perfect sense. Energy psychology techniques such as theEmotional Freedom Technique (EFT) allow you to correct the emotional short-circuiting that may be causing you physical dysfunction. While EFT makes use of the same energy meridians known in traditional acupuncture, EFT does not involve needles.
Instead, gentle tapping with your fingertips is used to transfer kinetic energy onto specific meridians on your head and chest while you think about your specific problem -- whether it is a traumatic event, an addiction, pain, anxiety, etc. -- and voice positive affirmations. This combination of tapping the energy meridians and voicing positive affirmation works to clear the "short-circuit"—the emotional block—from your body's bioenergy system, thus restoring your mind and body's balance, which is essential for optimal health and the healing of physical disease.
Clinical trials have shown EFT is able to rapidly reduce the emotional impact of memories and incidents that trigger emotional distress. Once the distress is reduced or removed, your body can often rebalance itself and accelerate healing. In the video below, EFT practitioner Julie Schiffman shows how to tap away your stress for increased happiness and well-being.

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2015/07/09/7-habits-emotionally-successful-people.aspx

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